Our expert says:
Sorry to say this but I tend to agree with Kelly. I strongly would suspect that the heart o all his problems lies in drug addiction. Many people, sadly, have been badly handled by police, but they usually don't allow it to dominate or ruin their lives.
It is entirely HIS responsibility that he hasn't bothered to seek another job in all this time. One might understand if he chose not to try to work within the Police service, but otherwise there's no excuse for just not trying.
He is thoroughly spoilt by his family, and has a cheek to demand money from any of you. It sounds very muh as though he has been involved in drugs ( was hat, even, possibly why the police got involved with him in the first place ? ) so that's probably where most of the money goes. And that may be where all his compensation, whatever that may amount to, will be wasted on, too.
He can only aford to avoid work and lie around taking drugs and feeling sorry for himself, because he is sponsored by you all. That is not good for him.
Start expecting him to behave like a responsible adult, and make it clear he is not welcome at anyone's house unless drug-free, and that he won't receive money hand-outs until he gets and keeps a job to support himself - he can start with a very modest job and work up.
Read-up, online, about Tough Love, as it sounds as though that may be what he needs.
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