Our expert says:
I"m inclined to agree with Obvious, here. This guy is a blackmailer, and such behaviour is entirely reprehensible. Nsa relationships have such risks. He can threaten to kill himself, and i he does, don't feel guilty - its only intended to hurt and frighten you. If he threatens to harm you or your bf, this is a crime, and he should be reported to the police and prosecuted for it ( warning the police to keep a close etye on him in the cells, as there's be a significant risk of a suicide attempt to bother everyone).
He sounds almost like a stalker. Unfortunately SA law is much less suitable for handling such awful people than i is in some other countries. But you can get a court order forbidding him from approaching or contacting you or your friend.
And you shouldn't be talking to him at all - why would you talk to him about any other guy in your life, or indeed about any other information about your life ? That's like giving a burglar the key to your door.
Change your numbers and locks, and calmly tell him that his threats, whether against your friend or himself, are totally unacceptable and could lead him into serious legal problems, and you cant acept the drama and unpleasantness he brings into your life, and don't want to hear from him again. Its idle to try to be "just friends' with someone this unstable and selfish.
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