Posted by: YaYa | 2009-03-31

Now &  Then

I was at a wedding a couple of weekends ago and there were a few people that were in primary school with me that I haven' t seen in ages. Well now back in school I was invisible. This girl was nasty to me. Not just her but so were other girls. There was one incident where I was asked to leave them alone. I don' t know what I did wrong to these girls. I just wanted some friends. So without putting up a fight I ignored them and just left to do my own thing. I know I wasn' t the prettiest of children but why did they have to be so nasty. Right up until I finished high school I had no friends. Yes I was the ugly nerd girl and how I am telling this sounds like it coming from a chick flick movie but hey that' s why they make movies like this cos it is really true. At that time it did hurt me alot. I did not find anything wrong with me. Perhaps I was just weird looking or something. Now back at this wedding I greeted this girl. She is no stranger after all. I got the most fake " hello"  and such a sour smile from her. I thought GAWD am I still that goofy girl I was back in school. I greeted her cos we' re all grown up and things like that don' t matter. I am over it though it does make my heart sink just a little if I think about it. So soon as I got this sour " hello"  I turned my head thought that' s that just walk away don' t let her finish you know. I have learnt to put things like that out of my life

Oh and suddenly one of the other girls in school with me is oh so friendly exchanging funny friendly e-mails etc. She had a child at 20, now married to a guy that gets so drunk at times and perhaps a bit psycho too. Oh shame.

I felt so lucky at this wedding. I have the best boyfriend and he' s neat, clean shaven and well-mannered and then I looked at hef bf who was all scruffy, over weight bla bla bla, etc. And this is not to compare but I think I got better looking as I got older. Her hair is over dyed and looks like straw and she has cankles. LOL ok that does sound childish but it is to make point of how I felt in school. You got ugly and I well got better.

I am so grateful for what I have in my life as well as the great friends who have come in to my life but I think people are such pathetic creatures at times and so nasty.

I' m now 23 years old and looking forward good things that lie ahead for me.

Please don' t think I have a big head but I am just expressing my thoughts. I was the shy ugly girl in school. I' m not going to waste my time confronting those girls (women). I' m over it.

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Posted by: YaYa | 2009-03-31

I am only writing this as it made me think back after many years and I got to see them face to face after many many years. This was in primary school. These girls did not go to high school with me. About 13 years ago.

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Posted by: Kems | 2009-03-31

I must say I was the same, also did not have many friends at school, long story short, after school I landed a high paying job and became very popular, where the kids at my school all went downhill with low paying jobs, you do get a sense of satisfaction to see how the wheel turns ...

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Posted by: YaYa | 2009-03-31

Oh I' m over it for sure cos it' s so childish yet they can' t even greet you properly. I wish them well what ever they are doing in their life.

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Posted by: Katy | 2009-03-31

You' re not over it.

You' re gloating because on the surface you seem to be doing " better"  than them. Don' t gloat over someone else' s misery or misfortune. You have no idea what their lives entail and even if they were nasty to you at school and if you really were over it, you' d not have posted this nor acted the way you did.

You are still angry about being the ugly duckling with low self esteem and it seems that by " gossiping"  here about them helps boost your self esteem.

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