Our expert says:
Its hard to define rape at a distance, and much would depend on the details of the circumstances. If you were clear and adamant in your NO, struggled, and made it totally clear that you wanted no sex, and he persisted and effectively forced you to do so, that was probably rape. If you were reluctant, and he failed to respect this, but you went along with it reluctantly, it might not be rape technically, but it was still inconsiderate and a Bad Thing.
Considering whether such an event is Wrong, is something personal to you rather than to be decided by external definitions or the votes of others.
If you always say no, but always agree in the end and go along with it amicably enough, he may reasonably believe that your NO means perhaps at least a maybe, rather than a clear refusal.
More important than a philosophical or legal discussion of such issues, is what this recurrent pattern says about the relationship between you two - wouldn't some couples counselling be useful all round ?
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