Our expert says:
Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Hi again Jakes, thanks for this post and congrats on your first date with a guy.
As Gareth points out, HIV is spread through body fluids - the high-risk fluids are semen and blood. Safer sex is quite simple - don't allow anyone's semen or blood to enter your bloodstream unless you absolutely know - know - that he's HIV negative. And you're unlikely to really know someone's HIV status on a first date - the guy may not even know his own HIV status so play safe. NO anal penetration without a condom and make sure you have water-based lube (such as KY or Assegai) available. Unless you have any lesions, sores or blisters inside or around your mouth oral sex is OK but don't take semen in your mouth. Most importantly, don't count on having sex on your very first date - let your evening unfold according to how comfortable you're feeling.
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