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Posted by: tommy | 2010-12-13

normal?

is it normal for a man who is in a long term relationship to feel down when he gets little or no sex? And is it normal to have sex once a month we use to be like bunnies but now nothing, just want to.know if its normal and what can i do to fix it.

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Normality is usually defined by your own goals and expectatioin . South African married Men in the 40 and older category have sex on average 8 times a month but would like to have sex 21 times a month. this can lead to discrepancy in the desire pattern of the couple and create conflict.speak to your partner about her needs and then normalize the situation .

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Posted by: ANON | 2010-12-15

YIP HOMER IS RIGHT IM AFRAID ....STATISTICS SHOW THAT WOMEN THINK ABOUT SEX MORE OFTEN THEN ME BUT THEY JUST DONT ADMIT IT..
SHES GETTING IT FROM SOME WHERE ELSE DUDE...
LOSE THIS CHIK AND GET ANOTHER ONE .
WE ARE MEN ....ITS WHAT WE DO..LOL

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Posted by: Homer | 2010-12-14

Tommy - Sorry to say but I think anon is correct here - She might be pinching the cat in the dark here..

Same happend to a friend - In the begining it was awesome but as time went by it got fewer and fewer - Turned out she liked woman all of a sudden after 6 years of straight marriage..

Funny things women - Cant live with then,Cant live without them (for tool ong)

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Posted by: jim | 2010-12-13

run, run, run.......

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Posted by: Vrye Denker | 2010-12-13

Dump her or start acting like a man. Those are the only options with a positive outcome.

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Posted by: Just Me | 2010-12-13

Try leaving love notes in the saucepans, in her purse, in her lunchbox...anywhere. Try helping with the housework, bring home flowers, cook a candle light supper for the two of you, run her a bubble bath with scented candles all over...then later climb in with her. There are a million ways. No need to over do things. Many couples set up times/dates to have fun together.... no kidding. If you don''t get this right now..........

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Posted by: Anon | 2010-12-13

Unless she opens up to you as to why her attitude towards the sex has changed nothing will work i would hate to say this but is there a possibility that she is getting it else where

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Posted by: amy | 2010-12-13

Buy her a sexy garment and attach a small love note with it, that should spark sum interest

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Posted by: tommy | 2010-12-13

ill take any tips, she''s not really in to toys, but any other advice will help.

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Posted by: Anon | 2010-12-13

No it''s not normal..... we are in our mid 50''s and still have it at least twice a week, you need to keep the spark alive

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Posted by: Barney | 2010-12-13

Do you know which food is the biggest passion killer, it sometimes lasts for 60 years .... wedding cake!

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Posted by: tommy | 2010-12-13

im not married yet we talk about getting married though, i also tried the talking thing but then she feels like im putting pressure on her which only makes it worse So i basically try to just leave the sex thing until she instigates but then i tend to feel like there''s something missing. so im kind of frustrated mostly because i dont know how to fix it.

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Posted by: XXX | 2010-12-13

It happens all to often I''m afraid ....... all you can do is try and put the spark in again by romancing her/different positions/toys etc

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Posted by: jelly | 2010-12-13

Tommy you dont say if you are married now, if so join the club.

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