Posted by: Carla | 2009-02-24

No sexual attraction, please help

My partner and I have been together for almost 4 years now. In the beginning we couldn' t keep our hands off eachother, but now my sexual attraction towards him is lessening more and more. It takes quite a lot for me to be turned on by him. I can' t understand the reason for this and would do anything to get our sexual relationship back to normal. Please help.

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Posted by: Carla | 2009-02-25

There must be something one can do. If the spark flies out the door as soon as one is in a long term relationship (cause obviusly that is when it gets boring) then why do people get married? The problem is my partner and I will probably be getting engaged sometime soon and I just want to know that this situation is normal? If you love the other person, there must be something you can do.

And XXX one thing I do know is that a woman sometimes wants to feel like she is in the driver' s seat and take control. So maybe try for a week or two to not show as much affection, don' t even try to get her into bed. You never know, she might wonder why you' re acting this way and take matters into her own hands??

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Posted by: hawk | 2009-02-24

That spark is gone forever Im afraid. Ive seen it in a couple girls. once they get bored, its over. You waste so much time trying to fix it, but it doesnt get fixed. Its better to move on now.

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Posted by: XXX | 2009-02-24

Things change for whatever reason.I am also in this position.I spoil my wife in so many ways and try to be caring/loving etc etc.We generally get on well but as soon we get into bed she becomes a different person.Sex is not on the agenda at all and in fact she treats me very poorly.
I have tried buying sex toys,porn movies etc etc but all to no avail.I am desperate because sex is very important in a relationship and certainly in my life.I don' t want to lose my wife but simply cannot get her back in the saddle.
I therefore cannot offer any advice but only sympathise with you.

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