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Posted by: Angelica | 2012/05/17

No Sex Drive @ 27

Good Day, I wonder if you can help. I have no sex drive at all, hubby is getting irritated and actually thought I had someone else. But I told him I don''t. I have no intrest in other men, or being sexually intimite with them and with him. It really annoys me as we did have a time where we both enjoyed it. But after I had my daughter 2 years ago I just lost it some how.

What can I do? We are having problems in our Marraige due to this, and last week I felt like leaving him, but I can''t as I still love him and cannot do this to our kids (Boy 6 years &  Girl 2 years)

Please help me?

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Unfortunately this is a very common occurrence and a frequent cause of conflict in a committed relationship. Ideally your hubby should read this message too...
There are a number of reasons why your sex drive may have declined...
(1) this is the normal and natural phenomenon where women's hunger for sex declines after a while (6mnths - 3yrs). Frequently this coincides with the birth of children and major changes in a couple's life, so it's often difficult to see this aspect
(2) the introduction of children to a couple's life brings with it stress, lack of sleep, difference of opinion in how to raise the children, exhaustion, and a seriousness...all of which may not have been present before and all of which can reduce libido
(3) many women leave their careers and may suffer adjustment difficulties or depression - this may reduce libido
I encourage you and your husband to have a look at the possible factors that might apply to you and then seek to address these TOGETHER - this is not necessarily just YOUR problem, it's a problem for the relationship and you both need to work to address it...and this does not mean to return to previous levels of desire, but most likely to reach a more comfortable compromise for both of you.

If you require additional support, I recommend you consult a sex therapist as a couple.

Claire - SASHA
For further information please consult SASHA's website at www.sexualhealth.qw.co.za/dru For referral to a professional in your vicinity, please send an email to helpline.sasha@gmail.com

The information provided does not constitute a diagnosis of your condition. You should consult a medical practitioner or other appropriate health care professional for a physical exmanication, diagnosis and formal advice. Health24 and the expert accept no responsibility or liability for any damage or personal harm you may suffer resulting from making use of this content.

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Posted by: Sexologist | 2012/05/17

Unfortunately this is a very common occurrence and a frequent cause of conflict in a committed relationship. Ideally your hubby should read this message too...
There are a number of reasons why your sex drive may have declined...
(1) this is the normal and natural phenomenon where women's hunger for sex declines after a while (6mnths - 3yrs). Frequently this coincides with the birth of children and major changes in a couple's life, so it's often difficult to see this aspect
(2) the introduction of children to a couple's life brings with it stress, lack of sleep, difference of opinion in how to raise the children, exhaustion, and a seriousness...all of which may not have been present before and all of which can reduce libido
(3) many women leave their careers and may suffer adjustment difficulties or depression - this may reduce libido
I encourage you and your husband to have a look at the possible factors that might apply to you and then seek to address these TOGETHER - this is not necessarily just YOUR problem, it's a problem for the relationship and you both need to work to address it...and this does not mean to return to previous levels of desire, but most likely to reach a more comfortable compromise for both of you.

If you require additional support, I recommend you consult a sex therapist as a couple.

Claire - SASHA
For further information please consult SASHA's website at www.sexualhealth.qw.co.za/dru For referral to a professional in your vicinity, please send an email to helpline.sasha@gmail.com

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