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Posted by: kuki | 2010/07/01

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please help, i''m one person who does not like sex at all , i feel pain and burning on my vagina after sex, and my hubby likes sex everyday in fact he''s always horny and i,m afraid he might look for sex outside, please help as a married woman what must i do please i don''t want to ruin my marriage.

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Kuki, if you are experiencing pain and burning after sex only, then it sounds like you are not aroused and the lack of lubrication would irritate and cause small abrasions on the lining of the vagina. If the discomfort is there all the time, then it could be that you have an infection (e.g. thrush or something else) and it requires medical attention.

As for why you don't like sex, the reasons for this would need to be understood so that you could possibly address these. Furthermore, it is common for one partner to have a lower libido/desire than the other and this difference needs to be managed in the relationship - this may mean that at times you are sexual when you aren't particularly desiring it, but are happy to be sexual. At other times, he would give you the space not to be sexual and possibly just be close. These sorts of things can be difficult to discuss and negotiate, but it can be possible to improve the current situation.

Claire - SASHA

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Posted by: Monate fela | 2010/07/01

He is not doing you properly lady..sex is a wonderful thing and you should''nt feel pain but pleasure ...monate ausi..

it''s either u do if without foreplay hence the burning afterwards..

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Posted by: Sexologist | 2010/07/01

Kuki, if you are experiencing pain and burning after sex only, then it sounds like you are not aroused and the lack of lubrication would irritate and cause small abrasions on the lining of the vagina. If the discomfort is there all the time, then it could be that you have an infection (e.g. thrush or something else) and it requires medical attention.

As for why you don't like sex, the reasons for this would need to be understood so that you could possibly address these. Furthermore, it is common for one partner to have a lower libido/desire than the other and this difference needs to be managed in the relationship - this may mean that at times you are sexual when you aren't particularly desiring it, but are happy to be sexual. At other times, he would give you the space not to be sexual and possibly just be close. These sorts of things can be difficult to discuss and negotiate, but it can be possible to improve the current situation.

Claire - SASHA

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