Posted by: kk | 2010-01-14

no foreplay

my boyfriend of three months is not interested in fourplay not even kissing me or holding my breast or finguring me for that matter, he doesn' t even know how my vagina looks like, but expect me to do BJ to him and give it to him everyday. i spoke to him about this matter and it doesn' s seems like he is interested in changing his way of doing things.

he goes on for a long (not that am complaining) and wants to be in control. i have tried introducing new styles to him but he doesn' t seems to be interested, as long as he is satisfied.

I had serious talk with him and it seems as if its how he' s been treating all his girlfriends. I love this Guy, how do i make him to change his way of having sex/lovemaking.

at times i wonder if he really loves me or if he is really normal.

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Dear KK
You have told me only of the sex . Is there a relationship also going on ?Is there trust, love, respect and and practicing of mutual enhancement of each other .
THe other girlfriends ? I love him-these statements worry me.
you really need to look at the relationship and where the two of are going
a relationship involves two people where both give into it and both take out of it. it seems that you may be the only one giving in this relationship

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Our users say:
Posted by: Juju | 2010-01-19

Hi Buddie, I' m also 29 I believe that sex is not everything in a relationship but plays a very big part. As much as my marriage is not working out sex is a very sensetive issue, but honestly don' t believe that people should hit the highway on many occasion I have asked permission to have a different sex partner cos I love my hsuband but he' s just not doing it for me. Ofcourse he said no lol what was I thinking? Should have just cheated. Period.

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Posted by: kk | 2010-01-15

im 29 years of age

Hi buddie, i appreciate your comment, i agree with you when you say that if there are no strings attached one must leave. but the thing is there are other qualities that i love about him, i know one will never get a perfect Friend, but I always believe that if their are things that we can change about our partners lets try to before we move to the next relationship.

moving on will mean that i will have to go get back together with my Ex Boyfriiend, who knew how to get me on. but that its out of the question.

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Posted by: buddie | 2010-01-15

To the two of you, there is only one answer, if you are not married, and there is no strings attached leave and look for somebody else.

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Posted by: Mr G | 2010-01-14

I am man, but sit in exactly the same boat as you do. We have sex maybe once every two weeks and when she is in the mood she doesn' t want foreplay and it' s always the same position.

I have tried just about everything, from talking, to screaming, to reading books and bying books for her, but nothing helps. If you do get a way of changing him please let me know.

I' m at a loss. I' ve had my final discussion with her and said I' d give het two months to either shape uo or ship out, but this sh*t can' t go on forever.

What is your age if I may ask? I' m 27 and my gf is 25... and already a ice queen...

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