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Posted by: Newlywed | 2012/03/18

New to sex

Hi, please give me some advice..
I got married just over a month ago and was a virgin, it still hurts sometimes when we have intercourse and I just wanted to know if this is normal? how long will it take until there is no pain?

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With sexual arousal, blood flow to the genital area increases and in a man results in an erection (necessary for penetration) and in a women this results in lubrication (feeling wet) and plumping up of the genital tissues. Whereas an erection may occur instantly in a man, in a women this process can take much longer (perhaps 15 minutes or more). It is important for this lubrication to be present as it means that there is less friction with penetration and it is therefore more comfortable. In order to achieve this arousal, women need time for foreplay. One can also use lubricants which can be bought or saliva (spit) works well too. It is important to relax the muscles which surround the vagina as the anticipation of pain can make these muscles tense up worsening the condition. It may help to bare down (push down a bit) as penetration occurs as this relaxes these muscles. If you are experiencing deeper pain on penetration, or notice an abnormal discharge, you should have a thorough examination by a medical doctor as it may mean that there is some other cause for the discomfort you are experiencing.

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Posted by: sexologist | 2012/03/19

With sexual arousal, blood flow to the genital area increases and in a man results in an erection (necessary for penetration) and in a women this results in lubrication (feeling wet) and plumping up of the genital tissues. Whereas an erection may occur instantly in a man, in a women this process can take much longer (perhaps 15 minutes or more). It is important for this lubrication to be present as it means that there is less friction with penetration and it is therefore more comfortable. In order to achieve this arousal, women need time for foreplay. One can also use lubricants which can be bought or saliva (spit) works well too. It is important to relax the muscles which surround the vagina as the anticipation of pain can make these muscles tense up worsening the condition. It may help to bare down (push down a bit) as penetration occurs as this relaxes these muscles. If you are experiencing deeper pain on penetration, or notice an abnormal discharge, you should have a thorough examination by a medical doctor as it may mean that there is some other cause for the discomfort you are experiencing.

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