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Posted by: thijo | 2011/03/09

never climaxed

i''m a 34 yrs old female who has been sexually active since i was 17 and i have never orgasmed. i enjoy sex but i have never had that big " O"  moment. is this normal?

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Yes this can be normal. Some women struggle to reach orgasm and in fact 70% of women reach orgasm on only every 2nd or 3rd sexual encounter with a partner. In order for a woman to reach orgasm, she needs to communicate clearly with her partner about what feels good. There are a number of reasons why women aren't able to reach orgasm, including: inadequate knowledge of their sexual response, fear of 'letting go' and what this might mean (e.g. some women are afraid of losing control, some fear that they might wee), side effect of some medication (e.g. antidepressants), inadequate arousal, tiredness, etc. Although some women prefer intercourse stimulation, it is not necessary for an erect penis to be in the vagina in order for women to experience orgasm. It generally results from a build-up of body tension through direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris. Stimulation of the clitoris through self-pleasuring or a partner’s touch, oral-genital stimulation or perhaps the use of a vibrator may result in orgasm. Some women never experience orgasm through intercourse alone, the addition of some direct clitoral touching with finger or vibrator usually makes orgasm possible. You may find that oral stimulation works best. Most important is to relax, enjoy the journey and do not become too hung up on the destination.

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Posted by: Alexxx | 2011/03/16

would love to help you find those trigger points too :)

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Posted by: XXX | 2011/03/10

What you must do is learn what are your trigger points by masturbating and then teach your partner what it is you enjoy. It is unlikely that you will have an orgasm by simple penetration,you must have lots of foreplay and oral sex

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Posted by: natz | 2011/03/10

are you joking?
you have never orgasmed?
try play with your self, see what you like and in turn you will be able to tell your lover which buttons to press to make you come!

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Posted by: Sexologist | 2011/03/10

Yes this can be normal. Some women struggle to reach orgasm and in fact 70% of women reach orgasm on only every 2nd or 3rd sexual encounter with a partner. In order for a woman to reach orgasm, she needs to communicate clearly with her partner about what feels good. There are a number of reasons why women aren't able to reach orgasm, including: inadequate knowledge of their sexual response, fear of 'letting go' and what this might mean (e.g. some women are afraid of losing control, some fear that they might wee), side effect of some medication (e.g. antidepressants), inadequate arousal, tiredness, etc. Although some women prefer intercourse stimulation, it is not necessary for an erect penis to be in the vagina in order for women to experience orgasm. It generally results from a build-up of body tension through direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris. Stimulation of the clitoris through self-pleasuring or a partner’s touch, oral-genital stimulation or perhaps the use of a vibrator may result in orgasm. Some women never experience orgasm through intercourse alone, the addition of some direct clitoral touching with finger or vibrator usually makes orgasm possible. You may find that oral stimulation works best. Most important is to relax, enjoy the journey and do not become too hung up on the destination.

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