Our expert says:
What you describe is a very common occurrence in sexual relationships between men and women. Most women most of the time will not achieve orgasm during penetrative sexual intercourse. The reason being that the primary source and trigger for a woman's orgasm is the stimulation of her clitoris. In most sexual positions there is not enough direct and sufficient stimulation of the clitoris for the woman to achieve orgasm.
If a woman wishes to achieve orgasm during penetrative sex, depending on the sexual position, the woman or her partner would need to add manual stimulation of the clitoris to ensure the possibility of orgasm.
Every woman discovers during masturbation what type of stimulation of her clitoris works best for her to achieve orgasm and it varies amongst women.
Initially you will need to guide and teach your partnner what works best for you. I often recommend to couples that they masturbate for each other so that the partner can see how you stimulate yourself and then learn to copy it.
It is also important that couples learn to communicate sexually and that you can give each other feedback during sex as to what feels good and what you want more of in stimulation and what is not working.
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