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Posted by: Skamie | 2010/09/14

Net skaam, of profesionele hulp nodig?

Ek is 31. Ek was nog altyd besonder skaam, maar het nie rerig daaraan gedink dat dit dalk abnormaal kan wees nie, tot ek vanaand ''n program oor Sosiale Angsversteuring gesien het. Ek kon so absoluut met die gas assosieer, dat dit skrikwekkend was.
Ek vermy sosiale byeenkomste, veral as ek van die gaste nie (goed) ken nie. As ek dalk in ''n situasie beland waar ''n gesprek gevoer word, bly ek in die agtergrond en sal nie boe of ba se nie. Ek slaan uit in ''n koue sweet en bloos verskriklik as die aandag skielik op my gevestig word, en ek kan glad nie dink aan iets om te se nie. Ek kan nooit ''n gesprek begin, of selfs aan die gang hou nie. As ek met iemand gesels, sit ek gereeld nog lank na die gesprek en top oor wat ek gese het - moes ek dit gese het, of moes ek dat nie dalk anders gese het nie?
My vrees vir nuwe mense ontmoet en ''n informele gesprek voer verhoed my om nuwe vriende te maak, wat beteken dat ek geen sosiale lewe het nie.
Is ek maar net baie skamer as die gemiddelde mens, of is daar dalk ''n ernstiger probleem?

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Many disorders represent an exaggeration, a worse level of perfectly ordinary parts of our life. Everyone gets anxious at times ( only an idiot would not get anxious in some situations ) for instance - so the criterion we use is to consider whether the symptoms interfere with your home, relationship and work life.
So its not so much a matter of being Abnormal, as of being excessive and limiting your freedom to enjoy life as you want to.
And as you've noticed, we often start avoiding more and more situations in case they cause us to feel anxious, till the avoidance can become as big a problem as the anxiety
Fortunately, thsi condition responds really well to properly skilled treatment, especially by Cognitive-behaviour Therapy ( CBT ) an efficient and scientifically established form of counselling. The Depression/Anxiety Support group ( number on this page ) could help you to find a CBT therapist near you

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Posted by: cybershrink | 2010/09/15

Many disorders represent an exaggeration, a worse level of perfectly ordinary parts of our life. Everyone gets anxious at times ( only an idiot would not get anxious in some situations ) for instance - so the criterion we use is to consider whether the symptoms interfere with your home, relationship and work life.
So its not so much a matter of being Abnormal, as of being excessive and limiting your freedom to enjoy life as you want to.
And as you've noticed, we often start avoiding more and more situations in case they cause us to feel anxious, till the avoidance can become as big a problem as the anxiety
Fortunately, thsi condition responds really well to properly skilled treatment, especially by Cognitive-behaviour Therapy ( CBT ) an efficient and scientifically established form of counselling. The Depression/Anxiety Support group ( number on this page ) could help you to find a CBT therapist near you

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