Posted by: Hans | 2009-02-24

needs space?...

the girl - i' ve been seeing a girl for almost 2 months now. we met once before and although brief, there was definitely some chemistry. anyway, i eventually got hold of her number and we went out and hit it off right from the start. we get along really well and seemed to be ok until this past weekend. now suddenly, she says she needs some space from me, she still has some emotions towards her ex and not sure if she wants to get into something serious yet.

the ex - they dated for over 2 years and had not seen him for around 4 months before we got involved...he is working abroad and they' ve kept in contact but decided to just break it off coz they were so far apart anyway.

should i be worried? normally i would run from this and have a date lined up by tonight, but i really like this girl...what do i do??

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Maybe you're just escalaing this relaonship too rapidly or intensively for her ? If you geninely cae for her, isn't i worth giving her some time and space to work things out ? Do you really need a date every night ?

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Posted by: Go for it | 2009-02-25

Hi Hans. Glad for you that you have taken that decision. I was going to say, tell her she has your number and one day if she feels like it ,to give you a ring and take it from there. These women who want space..... I say give to them, all they want and get going. Good luck

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Posted by: Hans | 2009-02-24

thanks for the response...

i think i' ll tell her that i do care for her but i' m not gonna sit around waiting on her to snap out of something that' s already dead...she can have all the space that she needs, all to herself.

i' ll be out hunting for a balanced, confident girl with no ex-issues, thank you very much!

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Posted by: sideways | 2009-02-24


Talk to her. Tell her how you feel and tell her that you will set her free and give her the space she needs but that doesn' t mean you will wait for her. Make it clear that you would like to be her man but if space is what she needs then that' s fine, you respect her honesty and will give her space but that you will also continue with your life. Be strong.

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Posted by: Jackey | 2009-02-24

Give her what she wants her space

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Posted by: Marley | 2009-02-24

dont be the rebound guy like the other dude said, move on Hans move on.... there' s a much nicer woman just round the corner.

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Posted by: Bob | 2009-02-24

Be glad she' s honest with you?

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Posted by: j | 2009-02-24

Give her her space. You don' t want to be the rebound guy, do you? Give her space so that she can sort out her emotions with the ex.

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