Our expert says:
Hello again G,
Any competent therapist, especially those with more traditional or analytic types of training ( where this is normally part of training and supervision and valuably a topic discussed i training, and often omitted in other forms o training ), have to be aware that this is a common problem ; one that should be anticipated and prepared for.
OK, some o us are more high maintenance ; some of us are simply rather lonely ( especially if we have devoted a large part of out life to succeeding in our profession rather than in forming lasting relationships and forming families ). There's no reason to hate oneself for being who and what one is.
Its important to draw accurate conclusions in a situation like this. He may at present be your only or main friend, but that is not inevitable ; it's a product of how, for many different reasons, you have spent your time. THe friendship you feel for him is proof that you can form sustaining and enjoyable friendships - they don't have to be with him. Presumably it wasn't Like at First Sight, so it would have taken time and work to get to know him and feel safe and content in his company, So it can be with other people too, carefully chosen but available to you.
Others can and will approve of you, and understand you. Rather than just to cut and run, discuss the situation frankly and gently with him, and explain that you feel you must now work towards ending therapy in a positive frame of mind. I'm sure he would understand, and accept, and facilitate this.
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