Home > Experts > Question Search health advice Find an answer Question Posted by: Meme | 2012/11/09 Q.Need sex My husband left me for another women. we had a good sex life and I find myself missing him. Last week I asked that he comes and have sex with me just ones because I have not been bonked in a year and he refuses. My problem is that his best friend wants to have sex with me and has been calling me lately for the past six months. I want sex but I am afraid to give in to my husband''s friend, I am not divorced yet. 8 Pin It user comments Posted by: Ndende | 2012/11/15 i full second the statement saka Kelly, but yourself a toy dear and bonk youself until you find a real man who will do it to you.Surely your hubby used to discuss your sex life with his friend and now shomi want to taste. say no to both of them. Reply to Ndende Posted by: Kelly | 2012/11/14 and have you never heard of a vibrator...?Use one until you find yourself in a relationship with a loving mature man who knows how to respect and treat a lady. Reply to Kelly Posted by: Cairo | 2012/11/13 Men always get & forget. Your husband''s friend just want to get what he wants & forget about you. Don''t lower yourself by calling your ex husband for sex because he is not good for you at all. You think you are going to enjoy it like before since now you know that he is bonking another woman?You can survive without sex till you find a man who will love u. I always thought women have sex with men they feel safe in their hands. I think you are still hurt & you will get over your ex & find happiness again. You will never know what your ex''s friend will say to your ex just a minute after having sex with you. They will both never respect you. Reply to Cairo Posted by: Kelly | 2012/11/13 MarieClaire you are such a slut! Reply to Kelly Posted by: MarieClaire | 2012/11/13 JR is definitely male. I cannot believe in this modern day and age people still say things like " while perfectly acceptable for men to sleep around, they want their womant to be virginal" - this is NOT TRUE. We women have every right to " sleep around" (obviously while being safe) just like the men.Meme, there''s nothing wrong with wanting sex, even if you''re a lady. Please don''t listen to this advice, it will only make you feel more guilty. You''re definitely not doomed to withhold yourself or " help yourself" only " If you really must" - this makes me sick to read. I do agree however that you shouldn''t ask either your ex OR his friend for sex. Never be desperate. Rather go out and make some nice new friends. Just be careful and always use protection. ENJOY! Reply to MarieClaire Posted by: Cyclist | 2012/11/09 Please don''t lower yourself by simply allowing your ex to bonk you.Besides anything else,you don''t know what he has been up to,you don''t want to catch a " nasty" . Many people,even when married,don''t get enough sex (just read the Sexologist forum to verify that),so give it time. Your " problem" also makes me think of how many women/men don''t bonk their partners often enough and then when their relationship fails,they want what they should have had in the first place.I''m not suggesting this in your case but just an overall perception. Reply to Cyclist Posted by: Leila | 2012/11/09 Im glad you asked advice before taking matters further. I totally agree with JR and hope you take that advice. Reply to Leila Posted by: JR | 2012/11/09 Please don''t demean yourself like that. You are worth more than just a meaningless shag - from your husband, and from his friend, who is just using you in anycase. Think long term here, if you do get into a relationship again, you will have to explain your sex life to your new partner (none of their business, but yes, they want to know) and while perfectly acceptable for men to sleep around, they want their womant to be virginal. Bullsht yes, but that is how it is unfortunately. In your shoes, I would ask the friend politely to disappear, forever, and never demean yourself again by grovelling to your husband. You are worth more than that. If you want to be treated with respect and be taken seriously by men you have to behave with dignity. If you really must, there is always help yourself. Not the best, but a means to an end in the short term. Reply to JR Want to comment? Your name (optional) Your comment To prevent spam please solve this simple math problem: × Thanks for commenting! Your comment will appear on the site shortly. × Thanks for commenting! Your comment will appear on the site shortly. Reply to Your name (optional) Your comment To prevent spam please solve this simple math problem: advertisement From our sponsors There are more than 200 different viruses which can cause a cold A clinically proven skin care range is now available Medihelp’s regional information sessions Superior comfort and support