Our expert says:
OK, so now she has announced her date, you can arrange your own date so as NOT to be close to hers. I really think people, families included, make FAR TOO MUCH out of weddings these days, from Bridezilla insisting on elaborate dress, decor, etc., to fuss about who said what, knew what, witnessed what, and so on.
This idea that it is "her day", to be dictatorial and disregard the feelings of everyone else - and then presumably the rest of the marriage will never again be "her day" ?
Weddings are probably the least important part of any marriage.
I understand that you feel bad about the clumsy way she did this, but I doubt that anyone else with a brain in their head thought any the less of you for not being a part of the circus.
For your mom to have insisted that you apologise for apparently nothing but being upset, was ridiculous, and part of this nasty Bride-As-Dictator law that seems to be being enforced lately.
Relax, forgeddabout it, and plan your own happy day, to suit you and your fiance ( off how it never gets to be about HIS day, isn't it ? ) and ignore her. She has apparently chosen not to rate her relationship with you highly- OK, match that, but don't invest your own feelings or happiness in it.
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