Our expert says:
How awful. What a cruel idiot. Doesn't sound as though he contributes anything much. You've put your finger on a key point, that she feels she deserves the abuse. She's wrong, of course, but probably convinced.
Maybe it'll be for the best if he DOES leave, then she can be helped to set up on her own with the child, and then sue in Maintenance Court for him to have to support the child.
Maybe also the local branch of a group like POWA established to help abused women, could help you and her. The priority must be the safety and protection of her and the child
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