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Posted by: new bride | 2011/01/07

My husband doesn''t enjoy or want sex

My husband does not want sex and has said that it is over rated, and that he does not enjoy the experience. I have used every possible technique to change his mind to no avail. Is there a medical reason for this, how can it be fixed?

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there can be both medical and psychological reasons for the lack of a sex drive. the first point of call would be to go for a blood test to ensure that there are no hormonal / physical problems that underlie his condition. Please consult a GP for the tests.

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Posted by: Johan | 2011/01/11

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Posted by: Lizzy | 2011/01/09

My man was ook so. Maar nadat ek hom oorreed het om ''n ureloog te sien, en hy met hormoonbehandeling begin het, is dit nou honeymoon every day!!!

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Posted by: Just asking | 2011/01/09

Did you have good sex before you were married? Has he given any indication that he may prefer men ? I''m really sorry for you as sex, especially when newly married is just fantastic. Although, I must be honest here. I had a girlfriend before I was married to my present wife and our sex was simply unbelievable, yet, with my wife its a lot more restrained, prim and proper and that is a big turn off. Maybe it could be your problem, being a bit too modest/restrained/shy ?

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Posted by: jim | 2011/01/09

Unfortunately it is a case of get out now (before you have kids if that is ever possible)

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Posted by: XXX | 2011/01/07

That is certainly not usual,in fact very strange.Did he mention this to you before marriage?
I think you should both go see a marriage counsellor or sexologist.
If your sexual relationship is good,your marriage has a much better chance of survival.
Good luck

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Posted by: Stud | 2011/01/07

There could be various reasons for him not to have sex, like he has erectile disfunction, EJ probs, had a bad experience wrt sex or if you have a child might have observed child birth (that is what killed it for me). I recieved therapy for this but I am still tentative. My advise is to ask him to be open and tell him to you sex is a big deal and you want it... after six months of no sex I was gradually nursed into the idea that sex is pretty much the foundation of my marraige now we try and do it once a week and my mindst really changed.
Hope this help

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Posted by: HUH | 2011/01/07

I tend to agree with Wow, no man in his right mind would turn down sex unless their was something wrong.

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Posted by: Wow | 2011/01/07

There is something definitely wrong with him. Which guy in their right mind would refuse sex. How old are you guys? How long are you married now?

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Posted by: sexologist | 2011/01/07

there can be both medical and psychological reasons for the lack of a sex drive. the first point of call would be to go for a blood test to ensure that there are no hormonal / physical problems that underlie his condition. Please consult a GP for the tests.

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