Our expert says:
Sadly, the story is familiar to anyone who has worked with alcoholics or who has one in the family.
Lets see - you call him your FUTURE step-father, so he presumably isnt married to her yet.
And if its HER house and in her name, she can have him evicted by the police, and forbidden by a court order / injunction, from ever returning or harassing her in any way, IF she chooses ( wisely ) to do this. If he is defaming her on facebook, she could take legal action against him, and facebook could be asked to remove offensive or defamatory material.
If his dubious friends think he's so great they will of course be delighted to have him live with them.
If he's swallowing a bunch of pills, someone must be supplying him with those pills, for some reason. Either they're illegal ( and the police should be interested ) or some doctor is prescribing them for him, perhaps not knowing the full truth about how he is behaving. Some meds should not be combined with alcohol. His doc could be contacted to inform him of what is going on.
If he is committing offenses in a car she gave him, well if its still in her na,e then it isn'this, and she could demand that he return it, and if he doesn't she can report it to the police as stolen.
"Speaking" to him probably won't help, and assuming that all action against him should be suspended because he's ood for a week, is silly. He remains an irresponsible alcoholic, and a danger to her.
If he commits ANY criminal act, whether drunk or not, he can be charged and dealt with by the police. I doubt that YOU could force him into rehab ( or even your mom ) as you / they don't have legal standfing to use the existing laws to do so. Once she married him, perhaps she might do so, but she should at all costs avoid marrying him. His psychiatrist ( if that is who is supplying his drugs ) or GP ( ditto ) could theoretically consider this option.
Best would be to use the law to have im excluded from her home and life, and help her to move on, to feel self-sufficient, and wait for someone decent to come into her life
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