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I couldn't help but smile to hear of a man who, when a specialist told him he was healthy, demanded a second opinion ! Reminds me of the politician, who was told he had a low sperm count, and demanded a recount.
There ae some odd symptoms that can follow brain damage, including a stroke, and can include odd pain syndromes, but the neurologist would have checked on those possibilities.
Sounds like he primarily wants attention, soothing and comforting, as he seems inarticulate when asked exactly what he expects from other people. Sounds as though he is almost, peculiarly, in competition with and jealous of his wife, who has certifiably serious illness and perhaps get automatic sympathy without asking for it.
A perspective I sometimes find useful, is that some people ENJOY being miserable - you do them a service by letting them have something to grumble about, and indeed if one magically solved every possible source of irritation, they would be greatly frustrated and much more upset. They need soothing noises and agreement that things are indeed awful.
But there sems to be a degree of negativism and denial - to claim one is penniless AND by an unnecessary Merc, and a house, at the same time, is odd, even not to realize other people will see through the claim of poverty.
It is also, of course, your father's duty to provide for his son's education, and not you as the sister.
I would wonder ( and maybe the naurologist checked on this opr maybe not ) whether he might have experience more marked cognitive ( thinking ) damage from the stroke, as sometimes happens, and is thus less logical in his thinking, including unwise financial decisions. He might, if he saw it as an acknowledgement of his awful problems, agree to see a shrink, maybe a psychologist ( rememded that neiropsychological testing can reveal more subtle aspects of brain damage from a stroke ) for proper assessment of such possibilities.
Don't let him depress you.
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