Our expert says:
Well, he needs to recognize that when a man allows himself to become so weak that he fails to exercise self-control, you bet other people will try to control him - especially when he pees over their things. YOu need to establish with him, that if he wants to live entirely by his own rules and make his own mess, he must do it somewhere else, somehow. If he wants to live with you it is your home, and your rules. And that includes paying in advance towards his lodging and food, by giving his pension directly to you, and receiving an agreed smaller amount of pocket money each week. And if he arrives home reeling drunk, he will not be allowed in unyil he is sober. Try doing a web search on "Tough Love"
Stealng anything, including alcohol, will be grounds for leaving the house. And he MUST get into a rehab program and join AA, so as to be able to give up this expensive and ugly habit . Merely promising to be good is worthless.
You are no wrong to put him out if he behaves as you describe - it is wrong for him to expect you to accept all his misbehavior.
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