Our expert says:
Good grief ! What a long story !
There's no point, as you've discovered in arguing with an alcoholic about whether or not they are alcoholic. But until they face facts and admit to themselves and others that they are damagingly dependent on over-use of alcohol, it is not practical for anyone to help them.
You can, and probably should, remain out of contact with her unless and until she has got proper treatment and got this alcoholism under control. It's very sad that her husband apparently tolerates this and seems to have done nothing realistic to press her into thee assessment and treatment she so obviously needs. And I'd be more worried about their child, growing up with such a seriously alcoholic mother. Depending on the extent of the potential risk to the child, you may want to consider whether the child welfare authorities ought to have been informed to check on her.
Otherwise, your decision to suspend your relationship with her makes excellent sense, won't harm you or her. Hope she eventually sees the light and takes her own problem and the problems this causes for others, seriously.
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