Our expert says:
Children go through different developmental stages of understanding the difference between the sex of their body and the privileges that go with social understandings of gender. Let's face it gender is a constructed set of rules and privileges that we attach to the sexes of the body for various reasons. Children learn this construct as time goes by.
Sometimes they learn quickly how things work, sometimes it takes them some time and more personal experiences and examples. These lessons are like any other lessons of socialisation.
There are health professionals who will tell you that children will explore these behaviours when they are very small. The best course of action is to not attach negative connotations to events where they express cross gendered ideas. Just gently explain to them how things stick together. Hostile behaviour towards a child in these moments could very well lead to suppression of identity that could very well lead to sexual behavioural problems later in life and gender identity struggles. While allowing them to express gender across the board will help them understand better what works for them and what won't.
If you are worried that your child might be transgender then you need to take the child to an expert in transgender issues. The behaviour you explain does sound very far from it though, at this point. Please email us if you need a referral. firstname.lastname@example.org
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