Our expert says:
One always needs to be especially cautious about people met over the internet, as you don't truly know anyhing about them. He is much older than her, and its awfully wearly for them to feel so sure that they are "madly in love" with each other. And when you say he has come from another country - are you all sure he isn't just eager to marry a South african so as to get citizenship or a permit to stay and do business here ?
She is indeed rushing into things - if things are as good as she seems to imagine, they won't get worse with waiting. She has a significant and important position in business right here, one that she earned on her own. If she chooses to give that up, it is definitely LOST, whereas whatever might come if she agrees to go with him is imaginary and merely promises. It might happen ; and it might not.
What she gives up, she has lost. What she hope to get might not come.
Why does she feel so desperate to rush into love and commitment ? Has she perhaps neglected that side of her life while furthering her career here, and imagines she can make up for lost time by plunging into this relationship ?
If he genuinely loves her, he would not push her to give up all she has and become totally reliant on him. NO good reason why he hould be in such a hurry. And as David says, the economic problems in UK and Europe are severe and will be for some years, so opportunities for her will be very limited.
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