Our expert says:
It may be worth exploring these concerns with a counsellor with some experience of grief. After 2 years, do you really think your late partner would feel cheated if you went out socially with your mutual friend ? I don't see why such a relationship would bother the children, or family, and the opinions off ignorant other people are hardly relevant. If there had been anything improper going on between the pair of you before you each lost a partner, nobody would expect you to wait so long before meeeting up again.
And there's no reason at all why the kids would be "destroyed" ( fortunately, kids are fortunately more resilient and less easily "destroyed" than we imagine. Obviously, you two would presumably proceed slowly and with some grace, and not lead the kids towards unrealistic expectations.
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