Our expert says:
How can we guess what he's up to ? That he's up to something, though, seems clear. Why not simply calmly ask him WHY he has a short-fall, and WHy he needs the extra money - and if he expects you to lend or give him money, he should be prepared to show you bank statements of how much he has, and where its coming from and going to. If he wants to keep all that confidential, then he can keep the fact that he wants extra money confidential from you, too.
If he whines that he's not being trusted, you can say calmly - you're right - because you keep all your financial matters so private, I have no reason to trust you. Nobody has the right to expect E else to give them money, without disclosing what it is for and why it is needed - and when it will be paid back.
You don't seem to be talking about money for groceries, or for the bond, so it's a very real concern why a guy who earns well, suddenly needs a substantial amount of money. Does he gamble, or use drugs, or have other expensive hobbies ?
Purple's suggestion of the proposal of sharing a joint budget for shared household expenses makes sense ( though you should both contribute on the basis of the proportion of your earnings ) and the budget should vcover only expenses that benefit both of you.
If he insists on Private expenditure of his own, that should be only paid for by himself.
How would he feel about donating a few thousand to you, from time to time, without knowing what you were spending it on ?
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