Our expert says:
In various forms this is a sadly common problem - how to gently break a sad truth to a loved one. It is a fact that macular degeneration will not be reversed, and that it will no longer be safe for her to drive. Presumably it feels very important to her to be able to drive, but I'd guess this is not usually about driving as such, but about being independent, going out and about when and as she wishes to do so. Maybe you can focus first on the suggestion that its generally agreed that she can't drive right now, and planning for alternative ways to help her maintain her independence and other life functions - if she can find that she can go shopping with one of you, and get a ride when she needs to go elsewhere, then when, still soon, one needs to discuss the fact that the injections are hoped to stop or delay a worsening of her vision, that good enough vision for driving will not return ; it can be discussed on the basis that it isawfully disappointing, but that she has already begun to find ways to remain independent despite losing the capacity to drive.
I found when my own dear mother went through a similar phase, when she suddenly was no longer able to drive after a head injury ; firstly she took the bad news more bravely than anyone else expected ; and we helped by emphasizing her true value as a consultant for advice on many other things we were doing. No longer able to drive to go shopping, she came with us, having suggested the shopping list, and checking we had got all that was needed, and so on.
As in many such situations, we need to reconize the limited choices we have. Soon, it will be obvious to her that the vision is not returning and that she will not drive again. Her doctor will have to respond honestly when she next asks ; and she knows that she is not seeing better. So one's best choice is to be honest in a kind way, tolerate her sadness and anger, agree that this is not fair, but that it's a fact of life for which we must jointly plan.
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