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Posted by: mims | 2010/02/19

MLC

Pls what are the symptoms of a mid life crisis in a male?
What is the age onset?
What % of men go on to have affairs during this phase?
When the phase is over if ever it does stop does the man usually return to his sane self or not?

I realise it depends on individual but just in general your commeths pls.

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There are no specific symptoms, as this is a popular, not a technical term. So, like "nervous breakdown" it can mean whatever you choose. It is nowhere near as definite and specific as you seem to think. SOME men, and women, find that at some stage in their 30's opr 40's, maybe later, they fel as though they are running out of time and steam. They no longer see their life as stretching before them for many decades to come, and start to feel finite. And potentially frustrated, at not having achieved all that they'd hoped to acieve, and starting to think that some of their ambitions which they'd felt sure they'd manage "one day" might not happen.
He/she may try to distract themselves with various kinds of over-indulgence, rather than re-evaluating what is truly important to them and how to consolidate those worthwhile aims and achievements.

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Posted by: SR | 2010/02/20

He begins to feel that he is running out of time. He see''s his dreams and goals being swallowed by mortage payments, medical aid bills, school and university tuition payments, lifestyle. He is distracted, he does not focus or has not focuss on his marriage anymore, he finds outlets for escape, affairs being one of these distractions. He is looking for meaning but does not find it, his new found thrill seems to absorb him and he is lost .... wiating for the wake up call which sometimes comes or takes a while, depending on the one who is sent to wake him up (The universe always send someone to wake him up)

And when he is woken the scales fall off his eyes and he can either find himselve surrounded by a group of those who love him, who comfort and protect him in his fall

Or he could find himself left out in the cold .... to re-gather himself, start all over again, maybe broken and financially limping

He goes through a phase of re-discovery and if he does not know himself, who he is and what he wants in life he could end up going from cosmic door to cosmic door knocking and looking but not finding

His answer is easy, those that know him can give it to him on a silver platter but he cannot, and sometimes will not see, he needs to walk that road himself

You ask for percentages ...... there are and you can google it ..... but if you are a love one scorned just be patient .... who knows ... only the universe can tell whether he returns to his sane self again


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Posted by: cybershrink | 2010/02/20

There are no specific symptoms, as this is a popular, not a technical term. So, like "nervous breakdown" it can mean whatever you choose. It is nowhere near as definite and specific as you seem to think. SOME men, and women, find that at some stage in their 30's opr 40's, maybe later, they fel as though they are running out of time and steam. They no longer see their life as stretching before them for many decades to come, and start to feel finite. And potentially frustrated, at not having achieved all that they'd hoped to acieve, and starting to think that some of their ambitions which they'd felt sure they'd manage "one day" might not happen.
He/she may try to distract themselves with various kinds of over-indulgence, rather than re-evaluating what is truly important to them and how to consolidate those worthwhile aims and achievements.

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