Our expert says:
Gosh, what a complex story ! As it started up, it reminded me of one of those school problems, like "If a train left Bloemfontein at 8.30, with 16 cattle on board .... what was the name of the engine-driver ?"
OK, let's see, you seem to be describing a very unpleasant, big-headed and interfering woman, who seems motivated to have arguments with you, and assumes her brother will always side with her. Your husband can't stay out of it, because she always drags him into it, so you need to discuss this calmly with him and sort out what you Both will do, acting together, to sort out all these bad feelings, to set out some ground rules for things like family visits, etc., and to make peace. I doubt that you can sort it out on your own - the Sister-in-law wouldn't let you.
If you describe the situation to your husband as a problem where you need his help to sort it out, rather than as something that makes you angry, he may see that it is the responsibility of both of you to recognize how she makes trouble, and both to sort out the current issues, and to make it hard for her to cause any more trouble like this in the future.
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