Our expert says:
This does not necessarily mean that he is gay nor does it necessarily mean he is a cross dresser...it could do, but not necessarily. Many men shave their pubic hair because it enhances sensation and also gives the impression of a bigger penis; however, the combination of him wearing your lace underwear with an erection at the same time does look like he is exploring a different part of his sexuality(this does not infer sexual orientation, I mean that which turns him on). Some men (and frequently rough and rugged men) do find some form of erotic arousal in cross-dressing; it is not that uncommon. I understand that this may be a shock to you; it sounds like it's something he is really nervous about too. I wonder if you might be able to talk this through with him without getting too freaked out in order to try to understand what's going on for him and then figure out if it's something you can or cannot deal with once you understand it better? If not, perhaps you could see a suitable counsellor (either alone or together) to help you to work through your reaction and keep the relationship strong.
Claire - SASHA
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