Home > Experts > Question Question Posted by: Trosh | 2013-02-01 Men in our lives Can you please share with me the worst thing that your man/boyfriend has ever done to you?when we were about 25 and we were about to break up, i asked him what he wanted from me cos i could not understand why he was acting wired, he answered " Nywana" I gave it to him, he dumped me anyway, fell pregnant and miscarried.Now we are 37, pregnant with baby number 2 and he just dumped me. i am due in 6 weeks time, we are still not married, he has not paid the " damages" of which he must do in two weeks time. we are very lucky to have tested HIV negative. he has 4 children with 4 different women outside and his mom is a BITCH and he dated a woman 6 yrs older than him and she one of the 4.how worse can it get? Not what you were looking for? Try searching again, or ask your own question 9 Our users say: Posted by: ....... | 2013-02-01 I''m a man... Sorry to respond late... For a man to respect u... Just tell him from day 1 when u know ur in a relationship what r ur expectations, what u won''t tolerate and the dealbreakers...If the man respects u, he will rememeber what is it that u expect of him, without him testing the waters and seeing how u will respond.. And u know what cut him off the minute he strays and break any of the dealbreakers and tell him straight that u told him..The guy will go away still respecting u.. he will respect u 4ever Reply to ....... Posted by: Bella | 2013-02-01 Yhooo sana uyanyamezela Reply to Bella Posted by: Ntate | 2013-02-01 No no Trosh, 12 years(Counting from the wired behaviour) is too long to in a relationship like that. Its neither good nor healthy for you, house in God''s creation did you make it through all those years?Did he father the other 4 children while you were with him? Reply to Ntate Posted by: Trosh | 2013-02-01 @Pear, i hurts me too, that is why i still remember the words and the circumstances. u r correct, i cant be part of this anymore. this is abuse.have a lovely weekend :) Reply to Trosh Posted by: Pretty Pear | 2013-02-01 I dont mean to judge Sweety, maybe yes i''ve never been in your shoes, perhaps bcos i''m too weak to let a man talk dirty to me no matter what i am to him. The mere fact he was too blunt and got away with it " when we were about 25 and we were about to break up, i asked him what he wanted from me cos i could not understand why he was acting wired, he answered " NYWANA" I gave it to him...that hurts meIn response on behalf of men...that gave him a way...if it''s not the same man then those lines indicate something about your self-esteem.... He is who is, you couldnt have changed the person in him, bt for u to be part of this i blame u! Cos God gave u the signs kudzalloo(accent)My 2cents...Have a Good weekend! Reply to Pretty Pear Posted by: Rori | 2013-02-01 the problem lies with you...leave this idiot and you will open your chances to the many good men out there. Reply to Rori Posted by: Trosh | 2013-02-01 … .. if u r a man, please assist me with the question you have " And what does it take for a man to repect a woman?" cos i always wonder what did i do that made him disrespect me to the level???@Just me, dont get me wrong, i love me and my children. when i let go, he comes back with demands and threats like i am keeping him away from his children and his children needs him and and and his mom… .i just want to know if there is someone who has been disrepected like me in this world or am i the worst? Reply to Trosh Posted by: Just me | 2013-02-01 I think you let him get away with it waaaaaaaaaay too long. He doesnt care / respect you for that matter. Since he already dumped you ....move on and love yourself. Reply to Just me Posted by: ....... | 2013-02-01 Maybe the problem is with u. Do u think a man can just shit on any woman he respects. And what does it take for a man to repect a woman? Reply to ....... Have your say Your name (optional) Your comment Security × Thanks for commenting! Your comment will appear on the site shortly. Search health advice Find an answer × Thanks for commenting! Your comment will appear on the site shortly. Reply to Your name (optional) Your comment Security Close Submit comment Recently: Asked Questions Answered Questions Commented Questions Help! I am bipolar and have no motivation I have a high viral load and low CD4 count I want to fall pregnant after using Petogen I want to stop taking my emphysema medication Help! My vriendin is gebyt deur iets Help! Family member has high blood pressure, skin rash and headache Help! My maag is loperig Kindney and bladder problems help! My kleinkind het 'n keel infeksie Help! My toddler is not sleeping through Wet at the gynae Husbands strange likes Help! I caught my fiance watching porn and masturbating Censorship Partner cheated.... angry at how I reacted advertisement From our sponsors Cipla today announced the launch of its innovative inhaler called Synchrobreathe.