Our expert says:
Baby daddy sounds like an irresponsible and abusive heel. Maybe you should take him to the Maintenance COurt so he has to pay maintenance for the child, but tell the court about his abusiveness and lack of interest, so he does not get given visitation rights to the child ( he might not want it now, but could change his mind ). Paying maintenance for the child is only right, for the child's benefit, and might teach him to be more careful towards other women, too.
Usually, you'd want a biodad to keep contact with his child, but an abuser is no advantage in a child's life.
As for visiting your bf's family, surely what is expected varies not only between various cultures but between different families. Discuss this with him, and let him guide you as to what they might expect of you, and it is also his job to help make everything go smoothly and happily.
So many people these days have babies outside of a formal engagement or marriage, I don't think you should assume they will hate you. Again, discuss this with him. Hehas chosen to be with you and to ask you to be his long-term partner, and they should respect that
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