Posted by: Anonymous | 2009-05-14


Hi all
Do i have a problem? i seam to enjoy mastubating than having sex and i reach orgasim than when dong IT...
Does any of you guys experience this???

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Dear Anonymous,

I hope some of the men share their experiences with you in regards to your question. I shall offer some comments.

It is not uncommon for both men and woman to experience greater physical pleasure and orgasmic response during masturbation. The reason being that during masturbation their is no performance anxiety, you can take your time and explore various ways of stimulating yourself, you can feel what type of stimulation creates various intensities of sensations and how to increase it to the point of orgasm.

Masturbation is a normal healthy component of each individual's sexuality. The challenge when it comes to sex with a partner is that we may be inexperienced, have performance anxiety, and our partners don't know our bodies and the ways of stimulation that works well for us.

This is why sexual communication is so important and a willingness initially to learn from a partner and to teach a partner with regards to our sexual response. We do not "naturally" or "automatically" know what to do. The desire for pleasure is natural, the ability to give and receive pleasure in ways that are mutually pleasureable and satisfying is learned through talking, exploring, teaching, guiding, laughing and practising.

Once you and a partner have achieved this you discover that the sexual experience with a partner meets a range of needs physically, emotionally, psychologically, socially and for some spiritually. You will still continue to enjoy masturbation, because solo sex also meets a range of physical, emotional, psychological and for some spiritual needs.

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