Our expert says:
Normal is a word I hestitate to use easily, except in a strictly statisical sense, when we have exact fudures. What you describe is not uncommon. And especially in some cultures, and the more traditional adherents to them, men consider money matters to be their responsibility, even if they're messing up in them, and feel queasuy about telling their wife or fiancee about them. Maybe you need to gently say that your advisors recommend strongly that you shouldn't marry anyone, especially not in community of property, without a full advance disclosure of the situation including the numbers. Maybe he'd feel more comfortable disclosing in the first place to a male relative of yours ( who would of course keep you fully informed ) ?
Your instnacts deserve attention and respect. There may be something wrong, and you shouldn't commit yourself to the financial aspects of the marriage without knowing exactly what this will mean for you now and in the future.
Like qwerty I believe that marriage in community of properrty should legally require a total disclosure between the pair of the exact financial situation of each. It wshould NEVER be acepted with financial unknowns.
And why does he not trust you with this information which could be vital to your life and happiness ?
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