Our expert says:
The average frequency for sexual activity in a long term relationship is 1ce or 2ce a week, so you are pretty 'normal' as a couple.
It is quite common that in the beginning of relationship women may have a greater interest in sex and possibly be less inhibited in sex than her 'default' position would be. This is due to chemicals in the brain which are released in the beginning of a relationship - amongst other things they result in slightly higher testosterone levels in women which may account for higher sex drive. Unfortunately due to a cruel trick of nature these changes are temporary and after a while (between 6months - 4 years) she returns to a more 'normal level'.
In addition to these changes (which are nobody's fault), there may be other changes (in your lives) that mean that your libido may take an even bigger knock. It is important to make sure that you are both satisfied with the relationship - this includes asking for feedback about how he feels/anything he'd like to improve, and likewise, you give him feedback and discuss what you would like to improve.
When it comes to discussing the differences in sexual needs (which is VERY common) I always encourage both partners to be willing to understand what it is like for the other partner and then come to some middle ground / a negotiated compromise. In other words he may need to know that his libido may be higher - and this is normal - as is it normal that yours may be lower. Therefore there may be a tension which needs to be addressed.
As long as there is flexibility, you may find that at times sex is more frequent, but there will also be times when it is less.
Low desire may however be caused by medical illness and some medications. It seems unlikely that this may apply to you as you are young, but if you are concerned you should consult your medical practitioner.
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