Posted by: No or litte sex? | 2008-12-10


Right - there are always people on here moaning about the lack of interest from their partner in the bedroom. Before posting to a bunch of strangers, audit your own life.


1. Do you make your man feel wanted?
2. Have you let yourself go? Sweat pants, no make up, unshaven legs, hair in a mess?
3. Have you put on excessive weight with no attempt to shed those kg’ s?
4. When you get home, do you cook –  feed the kids –  then watch TV and bed, moaning about being tired the whole time instead of leaving the TV turned off and talking to your husband?
5. Do you make time to connect with your husband, discussing hopes, fears, dreams, your relationship –  with undivided attention?
6. Remember –  As much as you are a mother, you are also a WIFE to your husband


Same as above (especially the weight and letting yourself go part), but including

1. Do you help your wife with the kids, cooking, housework etc...
2. Do you make her feel appreciated and desired?
3. How often do you compliment your wife? Hearing “ Honey, you really look beautiful today”  is a wonderful way for any women to start their day!
4. How often do you sit on the couch, beer and hand, relaxing while your wife is in the kitchen taking care of your family?

Things to try:

Make your partner feel appreciated –  compliment each other
Join a gym together/Go for walks together
Cook together
Read together –  discuss the book if you have nothing to talk about
Do the homework with the kids together
Eat as a family together at the table, husband and wife next to each other
Touch each other regularly –  cuddle, men –  rub her feet, she has been in heels all day!
Phone each other during the day ‘ just to check how their day is going’ 
Small gift surprises, when she has PMS and is moody for example, buy her a chocolate instead of getting cross with her!
Respect each other!
You both have needs, and they need to be filled –  Sexually, Emotionally, Intellectually and Spiriterly. Look what is lacking and make an effort with each other.

Trust, honesty, love, communication, sex, intellect etc are all “ must haves”  for any successful relationship –  make an effort! Don’ t be so quick to point fingers at each other –  look at yourself first.

Never –  ever take a TV or a laptop into the bedroom - that is your love nest! (same goes for little kids who want to sleep with mommy and daddy)

I hope this puts something’ s into perspective for you? I have seen so many couples drift apart, purely because they started taking each other for granted!

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Posted by: Sips | 2008-12-10

True that....

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