Our expert says:
Ageing and Sexuality expert
First thing to do is withhold judgement of yourself. You are all grown up now and allowed to WANT sex, to desire and lust for the things you describe. You, and many people like you, are in a conundrum. I agree that cheating does not help as it can complicate life much more. Mind you many people - as well as research- shows that having an affair can be beneficial to a sexless marriage. I am not endorsing this either way, merely stating facts. Another fact is that however scientifically one wants to work in sexuality and relationships, there is no science to fit every person's unique experience. So its your call, based on your own life.
I do notice that you are not playing fair by your husband - you are not telling him how you feel thus depriving him of the opportunity to change/adapt/adjust. If he does not know your level of frustration to the point of considering an affair, of course he cannot change.
Take this chance- tell him how you feel and teach him what you need, There are marvellous treatments available for men with sexual dysfunctions and chronic diseases.
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