Our expert says:
I entirely agree with maria. You are being used, and ou need to either refuse altogetyher to be used, or set your own rules as to the terms and conditions of the extent to which you will support her, and how this should work.
Sounds as though you kep getting into a situation of being stuck between two other peoplem who have difficulties with each other.
We don't know how much your sister's child costs per month ( and you don't mention its age ) but R 500 should be helpful, and if not, she could go back to maintenance court and ask for more. It is completely unacceptable that though she works and earns a salary, she declares that she has NO money either to get herself a place or to pay you anything for the cost to you of supporting her - what on earth does she spend her salary on ? And this IS YOUR BUSINESS if she expects you to pay otherwise her living expenses.
Why should she buy food for her bf's house ? Yet she doesn't live there ? Why should YOU provide a car for her to use ? And as she is not making the payments on it - is it in her name ? Yet if she smashes it, for instance, it is YOU the bank will expect to repay the money, anyway ? Make sure the car is in your name - though even then, you don't want to be liable for any damages she causes while driving it.
There's still no reason why your mother can't do moest work and earn something - it was her own decision to let her marriage fail and not to provide for her old age.
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