Our expert says:
Alcohol often drops someone's inhibitions and guard, not always usefully. The drunk statements reflect her feelings AT THAT TIME, rather than being any more "true" than sober comments.
Maria's response is pretty much what I would say. It's not a question of asking the friend to "get into this", but to convey a message. Friends often have the difficulty of not wanting to judge or take sides in a couple's disputes.
Clearly, from your account of it, her contacting you repeatedly conveying a message very different from her "official " and sober viewpoint is both confusing, and prevents you from moving on effectively, and it would be fair if you can get a message to her, to convey this - that if she truly wants it all to be over, you will accept that, but that her contradictory messages make it hard for you to be sure what she wants, and, therefore, how to respond
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