Our expert says:
I'm sure you're a good and caring mother. A calm chat with your own mom should help - maybe mediated by a family counsellor ( eg through FAMSA ). The trip is absolutely none of the business of your ex, and your mother should understand it's a bit hypocritical to expect you to live your life alone, when this is not what she did. But I'd put that more tactfully - gently remind her that she was in a similar situation to yours, and she decided, with all due care and love for her child(ren) to date and remarry quite early on, and yet even with her careful deciding on that, the stepfather abused you as a child.
Going away for a few days could be valuably refreshing for you, and help you to be even more able to help your own kids on your return.
As your kids support it, she says they're too young to have an opinion - I suspect that if they opposed your trip, she might suddenly consider them old enough for such an opinion ?
Take the trip, enjoy it, have fruitful discussions with the man, and decide on what's best for the future for you and your children - and nobody's better able to judge that than you are.
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