Our expert says:
Divorce support expert
you are not describing a pleasant situation or a pleasant relationship.
You are being abused and you know it and you are providing the answers to your questions in acknowledging that the drunken shouting is not good for them and that you deserve better.
It has been accepted that it is not a divorce/separation which causes most pain for the children but the conflictual relationship with the parents and unhealthy family situation. In order to save your toddler from pain is to recognise his need to have both his parents in his life and allow for a responsible co-parenting relationship to happen. You may need some guidance at first to establish this but you have a right to be happy even if it's not with your children's father. It is your separation and not the children's separation and if their are no concern that their father is abusing towards them he may be a better father for them as well without the stress of the relationship.
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