Our expert says:
Paying maintenance ought not to be optional, and you should have gone to court ( probably still should ) to have an amount fixed and required of him. He MUST pay maintenance, and would be in serious trouble if he ignored a court order on this.
Can't the dad take them to the weekend activities such as the cricket, and support them in that ? If he considers it a waste of a saturday to thrill his son by waching him play, then he's really a deadbeat dad, and has no business making the kids feel guilty by weeping if they have better things to do. It's all supposed to be about what's best for the kids, not him himself. Similarly, if the dad just drops her off at his parents, then he is not using and possibly not entitled to claim that she should visit him at all. It's his fault if he feels he has nothing in common with her. Again, a court hearing could revise his access claims, i he isn't using them properly and would look out for the benefit of the kids.
What do other readers think ?
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