Our expert says:
I like Maria's response, and agree. And she quotes one of my favourite interventions. Sometimes it also helps to shift the basis of the argument. Instead of arguing about whether or not she is going to have a bath, argue about WHEN she will have her bath, whether at 6 or 6.15, and let her win the argument. Whichever time she chooses, either way she has the bath.
Instead of arguing about whether or even when she will get dressed, argue about whether she will wear the red dress or the green dress today. Again, she gets to win, but you get her dressed, either way.
I also like the suggestions about tantrums. The traditional advice is to ignore them ( though this can be VERY hard to do ) ; and I'd say something like : "You know, you're shouting so loud, I can't hear what you want at all. When you calm down, and tell me quietly, lets see what we can do about it".
And while ignoring the tantrumming, it can indeed help for YOU to get involved in something she likes or finds interesting, from which she is excluding herself by the tantrum.
Its both a valuable distraction technique, and also offers a real ( though unimportant to you ) choice when part of the protest may be about the child trying to assert its own power of decision when feeling powerless.
Purple also raises the important point that before a child can reliably tell the time ( in terms of their inner clock, not merely reading a clock-face ) routine and sequence are useful for them to order their day.
With the clinginess I'd tend not to confront it directly, but to focus instead on working TOGETHER with the child, so she can gain the necessary skills to do it herself when she is ready to do so.
And copious praise for being so clever and grown-up in doing such chores, helps, too ( heck, with all of us, doesn't it ? )
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