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Posted by: x | 2008/12/01

just a little horny i guess

how do you balance the need to respect your partner' s position on sex and your own satisfaction for e.g

you feel like really having sex, and she feels like just not having sex, you don' t want to have sex with when she clearly does not want to but you want to have sex...

how do you balance that............it frustrate me a little bit, it sort of happened again yesterday and i am really trying hard to be understanding and sensetive but how long is it meant to last...

How do you guys handle it

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There are a number of factors that can be impacting on your situation, each of which requires an individual response and approach. I will however provide you with a few suggestions:

Sex like all other aspects in a relationship (finances, bills, rent etc) needs to be negotiated as well as communicated. Try and communicate your desires, needs and wants, additionally ask your partner to communicate their respective sexual desires. By creating a mutual relationship of knowing each other’s desires they can be better satisfied and accommodated. Furthermore, both partners need to acknowledge differences in sexual drive/desire (you may feel horny but your partner may have for arguments sake a headache), in this case other forms of sexual activity can be introduced such as oral sex or masturbation by a partner. Once both partners acknowledge that each one of you have different desires/needs and if both agree to make compromises, then you should not have any problems adapting to each other’s sexual needs.

Finally, it may be beneficial to introduce foreplay and even a simple back-massage prior to requesting sex. Again, your partner may not be feeling sexy at the precise moment that you feel so. However, a massage and a simple kiss may heat things up to the point of both partners wishing to engage in sex.

For further info regarding sexual exercises and discrepancy of desire please see this website: www.sexualhealth.co.za

The information provided does not constitute a diagnosis of your condition. You should consult a medical practitioner or other appropriate health care professional for a physical exmanication, diagnosis and formal advice. Health24 and the expert accept no responsibility or liability for any damage or personal harm you may suffer resulting from making use of this content.

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Our users say:
Posted by: Renelle | 2008/12/08

you guys are funny - very funny

Reply to Renelle
Posted by: Al | 2008/12/04

just have a wank - the urge will all be gone after that. lol.

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Posted by: Inside Man | 2008/12/04

LOL at Ross

Thanks for the advise Ross

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Posted by: ross | 2008/12/01

don' t get married!!!it will get worse!

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