Our expert says:
Obviously you endured a tough and unpleasant time during childhood ; and your daughter cannot appreciate how much better her experiences are. It would be wise for you to see a therapist / experienced counsellor, to work through your experiences and how they have affected you, for your benefit and the benefit of your family. It may upset you at times to find yourself nearly tempted to try to dominate her the way it happened to you when you were a child.
And discus this with your husband - all parents need to be cautious about no spoiling their child, and it is important for her to grow up capable of looking after herself as well as sharing normal household chores. And he needs to understand that it is important for both parents to be united and in agreement about simple rules and expectations from a child, and that providing no rules and strucure is as abusive as providing too many. Maybe some marriage counselling is needed to make sure he understands and that the pair of you can comfortably work together on this. From the sound of it, he is creating a selfish, spoiled child who will not be prepared to lead a life happy for her or others.
Its rather sad that she is a pretty kid - children fed the false belief that being beautiful ( which is temporary, and a gift from God or nature and not an achievement of their own ) is enough of an excuse to expect others to treat her specially, often end up leading miserable lives.
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