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Posted by: dwaine | 2010/11/19

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hi there, i got a small problem, my penis is about average length, but is very thick, some of the ladies i been with find this very good but when it comes time for sex they refuse cause they scared of getting hurt, i am now in a relationship but it is also causing starin now and sometimes sge gets torn down there, have tried lubbing but that just hepls for a short while, i do oral on her to satisfy her and sometimes she does try sex but with some pain on her side, she has tried giving me oral but that dont help as she can barely fit it in her mouth and i can c sometimes that it hurts her then i tell her its ok she dont have to, now my question is is there a way around this to make it pleasurable for both of us ?

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Pain during sex is a fairly common complaint from a lot of women and one of the biggest reasons for that is that penetration happens way before the woman is relaxed enough to accommodate the penis. Spending more time on foreplay could assist with the process of getting her ready. Furthermore are there different techniques that could help – such as Women on top or spooning, both of these techniques places the woman in the position to control the depth of the penetration.

Furthermore it is often found that women tend to find it a less pleasurable to give blow jobs and many also complain about their jaws getting tired / hurting. There are however some techniques that cold be helpful - One of the best ways to give oral sex is to also include your hands. Taking your hand, make a fist around the shaft of your lover's penis with your little finger resting on his pubic bone. Then at the same time take your mouth and go up and down the head and upper shaft of his penis while you go up and down with your hand at the same time. This gives the same sensation of you "deep throating" him (taking him deep into your throat). Adding different combinations with both hands and your mouth make for creativity and fun!

You are welcome to phone our helpline – 0860100262 where you could be assisted in finding a practitioner as close as possible to you.

Furthermore you are welcome to visit the following website for any more sexual health information and assignments that could be helpful: www.sexualhealth.co.za

The information provided does not constitute a diagnosis of your condition. You should consult a medical practitioner or other appropriate health care professional for a physical exmanication, diagnosis and formal advice. Health24 and the expert accept no responsibility or liability for any damage or personal harm you may suffer resulting from making use of this content.

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Our users say:
Posted by: dwaine | 2010/11/22

jokes aside, its all fun and games but its a serious issue and is causing strain on the relationship, thanx to those who offer some light, tried it and changing the position dont help neither does her being in control

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Posted by: Samantha | 2010/11/19

Let her control speed and depth by having intercourse with her on top

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Posted by: sexologist | 2010/11/19

Pain during sex is a fairly common complaint from a lot of women and one of the biggest reasons for that is that penetration happens way before the woman is relaxed enough to accommodate the penis. Spending more time on foreplay could assist with the process of getting her ready. Furthermore are there different techniques that could help – such as Women on top or spooning, both of these techniques places the woman in the position to control the depth of the penetration.

Furthermore it is often found that women tend to find it a less pleasurable to give blow jobs and many also complain about their jaws getting tired / hurting. There are however some techniques that cold be helpful - One of the best ways to give oral sex is to also include your hands. Taking your hand, make a fist around the shaft of your lover's penis with your little finger resting on his pubic bone. Then at the same time take your mouth and go up and down the head and upper shaft of his penis while you go up and down with your hand at the same time. This gives the same sensation of you "deep throating" him (taking him deep into your throat). Adding different combinations with both hands and your mouth make for creativity and fun!

You are welcome to phone our helpline – 0860100262 where you could be assisted in finding a practitioner as close as possible to you.

Furthermore you are welcome to visit the following website for any more sexual health information and assignments that could be helpful: www.sexualhealth.co.za

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