Our expert says:
I'm sure he wants to keep his job, and thus concentrates on waitering, rather than paying attention to whether anyone is looking at him. And most people are there to eat, and not to lust after the waitrons. So maybe it's your lack of self-confidence ( for which CBT style counselling can be highly effective ) which leads you to worry unnecessarily here. If you WERE not good enough for him, and he did prefer anyone else, he'd be with that someone else --- but he has chosen to be with you.
Men look at girls, girls look at men, without intendign to do anything wrong, and without reflecting badly on their usual partner --- men and women look at cookbooks and menus, without eating everything on the menu, and without looking down on their usual food.
The way you feel ismn't rare, but it isn;t natural or inevitable, and can and should be helped by counselling, so that you can enjoy this relationship and enjoy your own self
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