Our expert says:
You've seen something of how busy he is at work - it is actually practical for him to make time for you and the child ? Discuss this calmly with him - is there any way he could come home earlier, even some nights if not every night ?
Its possible that with his friends, in those gaps of time he does get, he feels able to fully relax, whereas perhaps, because he is worried about your being angry about his time at work ( he seems to have taken a lot of trouble to help you understand how busy it is ) he feels more tension when he spends such time with you.
And I expect with a child in the home, it'd be hard ( unless you have a good babysitter in the family ) for you to go out with him and his friends.
I don't quite understand about your each going out to a different social club - must it be that way ?
I understand that you find this disappointing, but has it only recently got this way ? Or did you marry him, knowing this was how he works and lives, but expecting it to change ?
Discuss all this calmly with him - if you used to go out together, and have friends come for dinner, surely that should also be possible ? Or have things become more full of crisis at his work ?
Dating outside of marriage is always a bad idea - the best thing is to try to fix things in the mariage, maybe with the help of a wise family member or a marriage counsellor ( for instance one you could find through FAMSA ).
You say you do love him, and apparently he does love you, too. So the issue is more to find a way to plan to live more hapilly together
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